Tuesday, September 25, 2012
I have a bone to pick with Gotye...
So I've been wanting to blog about this song for a long time. You know the one I'm talking about. You heard it played 17 million times on the radio in the past few months. And everyone and their mother did a cover.
Don't get me wrong, I think it is an awesome song. I love it, in fact! But I have some serious issues with his logic and arguments.
1. "But you didn't have to cut me off, make believe it never happened and that we were nothing!"
You're wrong, Gotye. We DID have to cut you off. At least for a while. After a break up, the only thing that can really speed up the recovery process is cutting yourself off from the other person. Take it from me...I successfully completed my 30 day he-tox, and it was well worth it.
2. "I told myself that you were right for me but felt so lonely in your company."
Seriously? Shut the fuck up. Were we THAT bad? Like so bad that it was as if you were alone? Come on. You were getting some and we were listening to your problems and we were most likely doing some kind of cooking for you. Cry me a mother fucking river.
3. "No you didn't have to stoop so low, have your friends collect your records and then change your number."
Actually, we did. It was kind of drastic, but it needed to be done.
4. "Now you're just somebody that I used to know."
Really? Really, Gotye? Stop being a little bitch. We had some great times. We probably had some really shitty times too, but it was still a relationship. Just because we're not talking or seeing each other now doesn't mean we won't in the future.
Gotye Somebody that I Used to Know
Don't get me wrong, I think it is an awesome song. I love it, in fact! But I have some serious issues with his logic and arguments.
1. "But you didn't have to cut me off, make believe it never happened and that we were nothing!"
You're wrong, Gotye. We DID have to cut you off. At least for a while. After a break up, the only thing that can really speed up the recovery process is cutting yourself off from the other person. Take it from me...I successfully completed my 30 day he-tox, and it was well worth it.
2. "I told myself that you were right for me but felt so lonely in your company."
Seriously? Shut the fuck up. Were we THAT bad? Like so bad that it was as if you were alone? Come on. You were getting some and we were listening to your problems and we were most likely doing some kind of cooking for you. Cry me a mother fucking river.
3. "No you didn't have to stoop so low, have your friends collect your records and then change your number."
Actually, we did. It was kind of drastic, but it needed to be done.
4. "Now you're just somebody that I used to know."
Really? Really, Gotye? Stop being a little bitch. We had some great times. We probably had some really shitty times too, but it was still a relationship. Just because we're not talking or seeing each other now doesn't mean we won't in the future.
Gotye Somebody that I Used to Know
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Milestone
This is big, guys...
I finally finished the tissue box that I started the day of the break up. It took 2 1/2 months for me to do that. I'm no tissue expert, but I think that's pretty good. I can usually plow through an entire box in one week during a bad cold. So this means that I didn't cry as much as you probably all thought!
I finally finished the tissue box that I started the day of the break up. It took 2 1/2 months for me to do that. I'm no tissue expert, but I think that's pretty good. I can usually plow through an entire box in one week during a bad cold. So this means that I didn't cry as much as you probably all thought!
Oh and there's the infamous roll of toilet paper. That clearly took the brunt of the crying on the first day...
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
He's still the first person on my "friends on chat"
What the hell, Facebook?!?!? Like...you're FACEBOOK so you know that we broke up and you know that I only allow myself to go on his page like....once every few days.
SO WHY IS HE STILL THE FIRST PERSON ON MY FRIENDS ON CHAT???
Way to rub it in....
SO WHY IS HE STILL THE FIRST PERSON ON MY FRIENDS ON CHAT???
Way to rub it in....
Sunday, September 16, 2012
I WANNA BE RANDOM!!!!
Okay so this part of the break-up definitely varies person to person.
WHEN DO YOU START THE RANDOM HOOK UPS??!?!
And I'm not going to specify what I mean by "random hook up", it can mean whatever you want it to mean.
Most people I've talked to about the break up process say that random hook ups really help. They're a distraction and most of the time they don't mean anything. But when is the right time?
I have now been single for over two months, and I can't seem to bring myself to take the plunge.
Not that I'm saving myself for "him" to arrive on a horse and declare that he's made a mistake and beg for me back, I just don't really feel.....ready.
BUT. If I find out that he had a random hook up, WATCH OUT WORLD! The wrath of Jess will be let loose.
I must be the first one...
WHEN DO YOU START THE RANDOM HOOK UPS??!?!
And I'm not going to specify what I mean by "random hook up", it can mean whatever you want it to mean.
Most people I've talked to about the break up process say that random hook ups really help. They're a distraction and most of the time they don't mean anything. But when is the right time?
I have now been single for over two months, and I can't seem to bring myself to take the plunge.
Not that I'm saving myself for "him" to arrive on a horse and declare that he's made a mistake and beg for me back, I just don't really feel.....ready.
BUT. If I find out that he had a random hook up, WATCH OUT WORLD! The wrath of Jess will be let loose.
I must be the first one...
Friday, September 14, 2012
Wise Words
Sometimes the worst thing that happens to you, the thing you think you can't survive...it's the thing that makes you better than you used to be.
-Jennifer Weiner
Thursday, September 13, 2012
OkCupid
I have a confession. I made a profile on OkCupid.
It was a moment of weakness, it was about 2am on a Wednesday night, and I was SURE that I was going to meet cool and exciting people.
I was really wrong.
I should have turned back after like....the first few hours, but I figured I should see it through for a while for the story.
So I immediately start getting these creepy messages, and I'm SURE that most of them are using fake pictures or fake information. It was just....an all around bad idea.
I think I'll give old-fashioned dating a try first.
It was a moment of weakness, it was about 2am on a Wednesday night, and I was SURE that I was going to meet cool and exciting people.
I was really wrong.
I should have turned back after like....the first few hours, but I figured I should see it through for a while for the story.
So I immediately start getting these creepy messages, and I'm SURE that most of them are using fake pictures or fake information. It was just....an all around bad idea.
I think I'll give old-fashioned dating a try first.
Sunday, September 9, 2012
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Children of Divorced Parents
So a few of my friends who currently live in the New York area came to Philly to visit this weekend. They also happened to come to see a show that my ex is in.
I LITERALLY had to be like....well let's coordinate this so that [ex] and I don't have to see each other.
HOW SHITTY IS THAT?!?! I feel like they're children of divorced parents. They had to split their time between the two of us.
And you know what...I was THIS close to going with them to the show. And then I realized that it's really important to maintain all shreds of self-respect that I still possess.
Did I want to see the show? Yes. Did I want to see him? Yes. Did I want to "randomly, no way what a crazy random happenstance" run into his MOM there? Yes. Did I want her to tell me how much she misses me and wishes her son wasn't such an IDIOT? Yes.
Yes.
But I didn't. And I'm proud.
I LITERALLY had to be like....well let's coordinate this so that [ex] and I don't have to see each other.
HOW SHITTY IS THAT?!?! I feel like they're children of divorced parents. They had to split their time between the two of us.
And you know what...I was THIS close to going with them to the show. And then I realized that it's really important to maintain all shreds of self-respect that I still possess.
Did I want to see the show? Yes. Did I want to see him? Yes. Did I want to "randomly, no way what a crazy random happenstance" run into his MOM there? Yes. Did I want her to tell me how much she misses me and wishes her son wasn't such an IDIOT? Yes.
Yes.
But I didn't. And I'm proud.
Friday, September 7, 2012
FACEBOOK STALKER
Do you have to delete an ex on facebook? If only just for the beginning?
I can't bring myself to do it. I'm trying to pretend that it's not, but I know it's that one little window into his life that I just can't give up. Am I at fault? AM I MAKING A HUGE MISTAKE?
Honestly, it's not really bothering me that much. Just something I was thinking about...
Thoughts?
I can't bring myself to do it. I'm trying to pretend that it's not, but I know it's that one little window into his life that I just can't give up. Am I at fault? AM I MAKING A HUGE MISTAKE?
Honestly, it's not really bothering me that much. Just something I was thinking about...
Thoughts?
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Breaking Bad Inspiration
A relationship can be like a drug, you can become addicted to it. So if you're trying to "quit" your addiction, you have to avoid it until you don't want it anymore.
That's the motivation behind the HE-TOX!
But you can't just go to rehab for 30 days and come out completely healed! As a friend of mine said, you'll just go through rehab thinking "I CAN'T WAIT TO GET OUT OF HERE SO I CAN SCORE SOME COKE!!!"
So it's important to take as much time as you need to break the bad. See what I did there?
That's the motivation behind the HE-TOX!
But you can't just go to rehab for 30 days and come out completely healed! As a friend of mine said, you'll just go through rehab thinking "I CAN'T WAIT TO GET OUT OF HERE SO I CAN SCORE SOME COKE!!!"
So it's important to take as much time as you need to break the bad. See what I did there?
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Keeping Friends Posted
So I went back to Penn last night for a party. I got to see a lot of people that I haven't seen since the break up.
And guess what....SO MANY OF THEM WERE CAUGHT UP WITH THE BLOG!
You have no idea...I was literally preparing for so many questions like...."How's [insert ex's name here]?" "How was your summer?" And then I would have to explain and tell the story like 17 times.
Instead I got a lot of "I read your blog, so I know how you're doing." It was such a relief. Just another reason why this blog was a great idea!
And guess what....SO MANY OF THEM WERE CAUGHT UP WITH THE BLOG!
You have no idea...I was literally preparing for so many questions like...."How's [insert ex's name here]?" "How was your summer?" And then I would have to explain and tell the story like 17 times.
Instead I got a lot of "I read your blog, so I know how you're doing." It was such a relief. Just another reason why this blog was a great idea!
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