Why stay?

So this is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. Why do people stay in relationships even if they don't think that it's going to last forever?

I've compiled a top 4 list...

1. Comfort. If you've been in a relationship for years or even months, you're definitely comfortable there. Chances are you've settled into a smooth routine. You have someone to complain to and someone waiting for you when you come home. Though comfort in a relationship is a tempting reason to stay in it, it's not worth it in the end. You're probably in desperate need of change and growth, and no one changes when she's comfortable.

2. Fear of hurt. I used to say to my ex all the time, "You shouldn't avoid a relationship just because you're afraid that it will end." I was...mostly right. The fact is that for most people, 99% of their relationships end. Ideally, all but one of your relationships will end. Some will end in tears, some will end in screams, and some might end with a handshake (who the hell does that?!), but the point is that most relationships fail. In the beginning, that fear should not stop you from trying it out. Every relationship offers room for growth and maturing. But if you're STAYING in the relationship for fear of the end, then it's time to end it.

3. Sex. Not that all couples have sex, but if you do....you don't really want to give that up. It's nice to not have to actively pursue a partner every Friday at some grimy bar with disgusting men hitting on you and then you end up drinking too much and then you have beer goggles and then....well you know the rest. But it goes without saying that sex is not the be all, end all. It's definitely not something that should keep you in a bad relationship. There's always this option! Bedroom Kandi

4. Friendship. Most people in good relationships would describe their boyfriends/girlfriends as their "best friend." And it makes sense. If you're spending most of your time with that person then you're probably telling them everything about your life. They know more about you then most other people. And it's scary to think that, if and when you break up, that person still holds all of that information and all of that responsibility. But the reality is that there are most likely other people in your life that will be there for you in your time of need. Rely on your other friends, and you'll be surprised how supportive they can be.

There are other reasons for avoiding break-ups like...money, children, etc....but I have no experience with that shizz, and I'm not going to pretend like I do...